Whats Good World!!!
Welcome to the fifth topic in this series entitled What Ladies Love.
Last week I asked “When is the right time to introduce your mate to your children? How do you do it?” I can tell by many of the responses and the comments that I read that our children are paramount in our lives. We should take precaution when involving them in our relationships. Many of the choices we make for our own lives affect our children deeply. Thank you to all of you who took the time to answer last weeks question.
This weeks question comes from my cousin Cool V. I think thats awesome because the ladies have been asking fo some input by the gentleman. So…Here it is!!…..
Question
What is your idea of a soulmate? How do you know when you have found them? Have you found your soulmate?
Cool V has had the privilege of finding his soulmate. WAY TO GO CUZ!!! Check out a few comments below. Leave comments. Im curious to read what you think. 🙂
Ebonie said: “To me I think people misconstrue what a real soul mate is. To me it’s not a perfect person it’s not the perfect man is the person who takes all of your fault and looks at you for who you are and said I still want to be with that person I can be with that person forever no matter what if they’d never changed from this day forth that is the person for me. And vise versa. Everything in your being attractions to this person no matter if they make you mad one day piss you off to next that person is forever connected to you by some type of force and if it’s not something that you can let go. You will fight to the ends of the earth to stay with this person. And that person will also fight for you. What you lack they make up and vise versa. That’s my take on it.”
Danita said: “My idea of a soul mate is someone who you honestly are not seeking out but someone who lives you for who you are. The love that is shared may be unknown to the woman but as it says in the Bible…a man is suppose to seek his wife and not the other way around. You have to be patient and wait. You can not rush or try to make someone your soul mate. It’s natural!!”
Charlene said: “Good question. I believe you will just know. It is something I can’t put into words. I believe in soul mates only because I have seen people so connected to each other they must be soul mates.”
Gwen said: “A soulmate is someone who is totally connected to you mentally physically and emotionally. You know you have found that person when they instinctively know what and how you are feeling as do you there is an ease of communication..and yes i have found mine.”
Carmella said: “Our souls must be connected to God in order to be directed to our Soulmate. You must both put God first in order to Love each other! Remember God Is Love! I knew I found mine when his love for God was as deep as mine! I also believe the eyes are the key to our souls and the truth. No matter our differences our flaws we will stay strong as long as our foundation (Which is God) can not be destroyed. What God put together may no man tear under! So stop looking for perfect love in imperfect people and let him lead the way!”
I love that these ladies are being so honest. As for me, at one time I thought that I did find my soulmate.However I was mistaken. I still believe they do exist. Sometimes I think I forced the issue as if I wanted this person to be ment for me so bad that they had to be my soulmate. I must admit I am kind of a romantic at heart. What I think is important is that the idea of the search has to be eliminated. I feel as though we are always connected to the people that we should be connected to. The moment that we come across the one who is the mate for our souls, our soul will tell us. I get excited just thinking about that moment. Anyway…I want to read what you you have to say about the subject. Leave a comment below. –Precise
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Precise 
Great topic! This has my mind going in a few very deep directions and wondering about my own soul and my soul mate.
so what are you thinking?…Please share
First thought, if I have to ask my self, is he is my soul mate, then does this negate the question or maybe im just not open enough to see it. Im known to be a bit harsh and cold. No lie i think i have some barriers up. If he’s put up with it for this long he must be the one! lol
Soulmate comes down to something you feel..its a quiet known fact that is proved in words and manifested in actions.
I think a soul mate is the person that you look at and remain silent…yet you know the love is deeper than you could ever imagine. Deeper than sex..the connection that quietly speaks volumes.
I definitely believe in soul mates. Sme people are meant to be In each others lives forever, even if not romantically.
Mo …that last part is pretty interesting…do you think you have found your “non-romantic” soul mate?
When you found your soul mate a simple hug can give you this wonderful feeling deep in your soul.when your mate fills in any weakness you have to make it perfect.when you kiss you really get that story book feeling like youre on a peacefull island and when your lips leave each other you see that its this one person that completes you.when your apart and your heart feels incomplete.when your together again it seems like they were gone an eternity….when both familys adore your love or if they dont its just you two against the world.
No one is perfect but my idea of a SOULMATE…a soulmate wuuld be someone who sees you as you truly are, uncut, vulnerable, unmasked and yet loves you anyway, would do anything humanly possible for you, and knows that they are imperfect as well but together you are one in spirit, mind and heart.
I’ve had a soulmate or two or three in my life. That’s how it happens sometimes. Pity those who’ve never had one for their lack of romantic imagination.
I believe that soulmates exist although I dont believe everyone has one because not everyone ia meant to be in a relationship or married. With that said I believe a soul mate is someone who compliments and completes you. Its more than just “getting along great” but is defined by someone’s unique life experiences that shape who they are and then you meet and realize that their unique exeperiences prepared them just for you. That person is just who you need.Your soulmate!
My idea of soulmate is when both hearts connect. Neither of you have no care in the world. Your love is unbreakable and you accept each other for who you are, and what you do in everyday life. You complete one another :).
Sunshine
I personally believe that “soulmate” is a term that is thrown around very loosely these days. Many think they will find this one person and they will be complete. The ideal of finding a person who complete you is misleading. You are complete within yourself, your true soulmate will merely propel you into the next chapter or lesson of your life. Instead of being complete, you become completely free to be yourself with this person. The relationship or union of soulmates is not just a romantic relationship it can be completely platonic. Your soulmate can be your friend, child, sibling, or co-worker. This said it is important to mention that you can have multiple soulmates. So don’t be surprised by this when it happens to you. The best description I’ve heard about finding your soulmate is “Meeting them is like coming home”. The easy way to begin to find your soulmates is to open your heart and set your intentions on them. It was written in both of your destinies to find each other so trust that it will happen.
Oh and keep in mind that a Soulmate is a totally different animal than Twin Flame but that a different topic.
Lela Sky
Well, I havent found my soulmate, or rather, my soulmate hasnt found me yet. 😉 But, I would think it would be the moment when you can honestly reflect on your relationship and think, “How did I ever live w/o this person?” Consider this: Those of us who believe in God have had that moment when we realize that all we’d been through was for a purpose. If it werent for the tests and hardships, you wouldnt now be in that place of “success.” When you can place that person, in one of these moments, I would think that it is then that you’ll know they’re your soulmate.
I found my Soulmate when I was able to let go and love God which in turn allowed me to learn to love myself, which opened me up to truly love another. We are soulmates because we love each other enough to appreciate the people we are while simultaneously challenging each other to live up to the brilliance we are both capable of. My woman and I are best friends, lovers, & business partners in this thing we call a relationship. We allow each other to be 100% of who we are and 100% of who we need to be in each other’s presence. The fact that we HONESTLY love and honor each other enough to put the work in to fight for our individual happiness in order to enhance each others happiness and the shared happiness between us is evidence for me that God brought us together. Besides, even if we never get married, I can’t imagine my life without her in some, shape, form or fashion and I know she feels the same.
Im late posting, but Ive met my soulmate and this was my exact experience……”People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…” Elizabeth Gilbert
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