Whats Good World!!!!
Welcome to the ninth topic in this series entitled What Ladies Love.
Its been a while since I posted anything with respect to this series because I have been sooooo busy, however IM BACK!!! If you would like to read the previous post you can click here. We got some good feedback from that one. Now lets get to it.
Last night I finally got around to watching ‘Silver Linings Playbook” after much belly aching because of the snub “Beasts of the Southern Wild” and Quvenzhané Wallis received from the academy. I got over it and decided to see why the academy chose Jennifer Lawrence as best actress and why people where so into this movie.
If I were to judge a book by it cover or rather the posters used to advertise this movie, I would have dismissed this as a date movie. The only reason I had any level of interest was due to an interview Bradley Cooper the lead character did on “Fresh Air” with Terry Gross on Npr. The story seemed to have some more depth, so I dived in.
Bradley Cooper’s character Pat Solitano is released from a mental illness facility that he was placed in because of an episode he had after coming home and finding his wife in the shower with another man. In my opinion he reacted just as I would expect any husband to react when he catches his wife sleeping with another man. HE BEATS THE SHIT OUT OF HIM!!
Whats interesting about this is that Pat leaves the facility intent on getting back with his wife. He says he has grown as a person, he lost weight and he has learned that in all the experiences in life it is best to stay positive and find that “Silver Lining” He meets Jennifer Lawrence’s character Tiffany who is a widow and as a result has become this promiscuous woman about town. They initially bond over their experiences with familiar medications.
Pat’s dad played by Robert De Niro is a Philadelphia Eagles fan who is banned from the stadium because of all the fights he got into and he is highly superstitious and says Pat brings him good luck during the Eagles games and that he should stay and watch them with him, and he is OCD. Each one of the characters has this quirk that defines them. It made me want to examine this a bit deeper.
I can really relate to Pat and his desire to get back with his wife. I remember when I was fresh into my separation I thought that if I could change some things, focus more on what I wasn’t doing before and become a better person that my wife would take me back. I just knew that she loved me and that we could overcome any and all obstacles. I was out of work so i found a job. Then I discover that she is pregnant with another mans child. This almost destroyed me.
I watched the scene in the movie where Pat catches his wife and could see myself in that same position. I’m happy I wasn’t in that position cause Im sure it wouldn’t have had such a happy ending. Now…does the fact that I would have possibly reacted the same way make me mentally ill?
I am kinda of shortening the scope of Pats illness, he was dealing with it all of his life and that specific moment he snapped. Tiffany lost her husband a Police Officer suddenly while he was trying to rekindle the spark in their marriage, as a result she became promiscuos and was given medication to help deal with her depression.
The way I see it all of us have this capacity to be considered mentally ill based on our quirks and how some people may perceive us. The one thing I got out of this movie was that each and every character was dealing with some type of stress that affected who they were mentally.
As much as this movie is about mental illness, it is mostly about overcoming it. Pat embraced positivity and exercise and believing that having hope works. Tiffany represented that extra push…that voice of raw truth that all of us need. Jennifer Lawrence did an Awesome job with her character. I still think Quvenzhané Wallis should have won…lol
Now…with all that being said…I want to ask… Are all of us mentally ill/crazy and can it be overcome? Share your experience. I would love to read what you think. 🙂
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As a person who has had to deal with mental illness in his family, I really connected to the film. I didnt dwell on the aspect of them overcoming anything…..mental illness is about coping! The “crazy” that each person dealt with….ie Deniro, OCPD, Cooper, Bipolar, Lawrence, depression….each illness manifested itself most through the skills they felt they were using to cope…..It was a very deep flick inthat it makes u look at yourself fiorst and meeting other people’s “crazy with your own “crazy” (an actual line in the movie)
That is so real…I think we all have this “crazy” that we all have to deal with…and thats not necessarily a bad thing.
I haven’t seen the movie, but definitely can relate to being in love and feeling like I had a little “Crazy” in me when the person I loved hurt me beyond repair at that point in my life. Yes I think we all show our crazy when our hearts are involved I think it’s a natural response. I’ll have to check this movie out..great commentary by the way!
Show me sanity and then i’ll say disorder, lol. I believe any person who believes in their own ability to be healthy can be whether it be mentally or physically. I don’t truly think the man had an actual disorder, but a mental break in a highly stressful and traumatic event. I applaud Hollywood’s attempt to illustrate mental illnesses because of its social taboos however, I believe these portrayals at times do more harm than good. I need to see the movie before I go on rant. Depending on the diagnosis dictates prognosis. The ones aforementioned, I believe so bc they are centered around adjustment.
Yes…we all have the ability to heal ourselves, we have to believe it enough.
I haven’t seen this movie and I’m intrigued to see it now..I think that we all have a little crazy in us when it comes to LOVE. To be hurt and betrayed by someone you love can be devastating to say the least…I know I’ve been there. The heart is not something to play with you never know what “craziness” could come out!
Betrayal sucks…but the silver lining is you know who loves u :-). I want tohear what you think after you see it too.
Thanks for sharing…I will be back on soon to share my thoughts. Getting the children off to school!!