Whats Good World!!!
Welcome to the eighth topic in this series entitled What Ladies Love.
The question previous to this one was “If a dress could describe your personality, would you be a black mini, a pinstriped business suit or a ball gown?” Explain. There were some great descriptions with respect to this question and so many of you seem so versatile in terms of who you are. Thats a good thing.
This weeks question is sure to spark a spirited discussion.
Is it ever ok to date someone who is married?
I have been married and I have ben unfaithful. When I was doing this I knew it was wrong but I had suspicions that happened to be right. However even though I was right in my suspicion it still did not make it right for me to be unfaithful. My feelings at this point in my development are pretty cut and dry. I would never date anyone who is married. Karma is real and why tamper with someone else’s union.
I posed this question at my job and I got one answer that was quite compelling. My co-worker said that if either spouse was terminally ill and they spoke about not being able to meet each others emotional and physical needs that it would be ok to go elsewhere to have those needs fulfilled. I thought that was an interesting perspective.
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I dont think its ever right. What do you think? Please leave a comment below.
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I don’t think that’s ever right either. But it’s a personal choice, right? Thanks for following my blog! I really like yours–very thought provoking.
Thank you so much. Thank you for taking the time out to read the post. 🙂
No it is not right for me to date a married man. I was cognizant of that very thing a long time ago but my desire to do better pulled me away from that scenario. And even today I am tempted to go there, but I wont.
Do you think you will ever give in to that temptation?
I think that when people love each other it surpasses marriage. Love trumps vows made out of desperate attemps to hold someone’s affection and attention for LIFE!! It doesn’t mean that you’re in competition with the spouse necessarily, it means that as humans we are capable of loving more than one person at a time. You can love more than one person at a time. The fact that we even get married is a deeply rooted fear of losing a persons love and attention that you make them PROMISE to never leave you. This is known as the fear of seperation. Life is about changing times, nothing stays the same and we are too afraid to accept that; henceforth, marriage is a means of control. Should we truly go through life and not experience different touch, emotion, affection, laughter and growth by sharing ourselves with others intimately?? I think NOT. If you are honest to your core, being with one person for the rest of your days is an obligatory sentence. Life is too short!
I think if you choose to be with one person it an be wonderful. If you make that conscious choice one must be clear about that commitment.
I would be the ballroom gown. I would love that lady princess feeling of royalty with all eyes on me. Just momentarily.
I don’t think it is ever ok to date a married man. I don’t care what the circumstances were. I wouldn’t even venture in that direction. I am a firm believer in karma and it will come for you…good and bad. At the end of the day, it’s selfish and inappropriate. Period. People need to exercise some self control.
I think the institution of marriage is unfair when it comes to sex. this is because nothing in this world is said to be forever, but marriage. even your children leave home. thus, our bodies, especially a man’s, is not set up for monogamy. it is wrong to force us, or a man to do so FOREVER. Thus I think that when a person is unfaithful, they need to figure out the reason and the plan for it. For example, if a woman is cheating with a man because she wants to do evil to the wife, or if either spouse is cheating to get back at the other, then Karma can come into play. However, if the other person is meeting a need that your spouse cannot fulfill and you are able to manage the two people, I say get your needs met, Cuz no one else is gona be worried about getting your needs met like YOU.
Thanks for this thought provoking blog. I, personally, do not believe it is ever right to cheat in a marriage or relationship; however, it is a personal event with personal reasons. Adultery, cheating and affairs have been a part of relationships since the beginning of written history, does it make it right no but it has become a more acceptable act. The act of infidelity has so many definitions and dimensions that it is difficult to point a finger at one particular act as being the most damaging or detrimental to marriage, it is truly left up to the couple involved in the situation to determine how much they are willing to excuse and accept.
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